Yesterday evening I went with angelsin and some of his friends to watch some Stand-Up Comedy. A perfect occasion to invite a girl out … since I don’t have to do to much talking and she would still have some laughs. So I call TI-5. Thus far I had called her two times. Yesterday we were teasing each other mercyless! I was desperately trying to get into confort with her, but she would have none of it! It was A2 and A3 all the way … a continuous ping-pong! After the phone conversation, Angelsin pointed out a very important fact: It’s with these girls that I naturally learn A2 ( teasing, C&F, push pull, etc ).
So in the evening I was expecting the ping pong to continue like crazy. But she was late, so, probably because of it, she was like a guilty cat that knew she was guilty for peeing on the living room rug. This gave me the opportunity to put her on the points system. -1 for being late. -1 for asking me for an ashtray ( because she was smoking ). +1 when she said “ok, but I won’t smoke because I don’t want to <<fumigate>> you” 
. At the end of the show everyone was leaving, and she wasn’t confortable because she hadn’t met my friends. I told her that if she had come on time it would have been much easier to make acquaintance with them, but when she came the show had already started.
I walked her to her car. She said she was so cold. I wrapped my arm around her. She said it’s too tight. Then she asked me about myself – we were teasing again. She asks me what I do again – I tell her I am a disposable lighter repair-man. She makes a connection with my friend’s broken lighter inside the bar. I take my hand from around her and I give her my elbow – she took it with a hesitation. She asks me my full name – I answer bullshit. Then she says she didn’t ask me to walk her to her car. So instantly I feign I want to turn back and go in the oposite direction, but she grabs my elbow and doesn’t let me go . So I introduce myself with my full name. She gives me her name with the middle name – and mentions the name of her grandma – we make a joke about it. So I then tell her my middle name too.
She drives me from her car to where my car was parked. She couldn’t park her car with the back, so I tought her ( I was delighted inside me that I had tought her something – I knew that teaching a girl something from the first date is gold – especially if it is something physical … which it wasn’t, but I still DHVed ).
I started my post name with the word “Random”, because what followed was random. No structure. One might say that I needed no structure – I was already in A3 … and I could only go into Comfort from there.
I start by telling her that I cannot stay long because it’s late (it was 12:10 am ). She says she cannot stay late either. Why I say it was no structure – because we were just comunicating and having fun but in no particular order.
She had asked me if I was a football fan. I asked – which type: European or American? In the end I told her I was a fan of a team from Bucharest. She said she lived in the neighbourhood of the stadium when she lived there. I found out she was in Bucharest for a year, studying to become a flight attendant. NICE! I complemented her on this. Now she moved back to Timisoara – she still wants to become a flight attendant so she’s studying tourism.
I continue the story I had started in the Stand Up Comedy bar – it was a story about my first kiss. She then told me about her first kiss.
She asks me about how I opened her – if I always open people on the street. I tease her: do you always give your number on the street? She says no, because nobody apporaches her like that on the street. Then she asks me if my sweater story is bullshit. I feign being hurt . I joke – come on – is that how much you trust me? I fake leaving the car. She asks me why I go so soon. I say because hse heart my feelings but I laugh and I don’t go.
Then she tells me that her grandma is very close to her – that she gives good advice – better then her mom.
I ask her what’s so special about her grandma. She says she just has lots of life experience. That she talks to her about relationships and so on. So I ask her what she had said about ‘the guy who met her in the street”. She says she didn’t tell her about me and especially she didn’t tell her that she’s meeting a guy she met in the street!
She says she wouldn’t have given me her number if she had met me during the night on the street. I tell her the story of Angelsin picking up the girl in Belgrade in a dark stairway alley so I say anything is possible.
I keep mentioning angelsin who travels a lot – that we have challenges for each other and that what bonded us was our openness, curiosity to try things, to push one another, to travel, etc. ( therefore hinting that I am the same way ).
At some point we talk about sexuality. She asks me if I want to talk about it then. I say: noooooo – i was just making conversation. Then i joke that i am an inexperienced virgin and I want someone to teach me . She says – don’t joke like this – it’s not cool. So I still keep joking ( but maybe i shouldn’t have since we were in rapport! ).
Then I describe the sexual act in some cool sentences – she is a bit impressed.
I keep kinoing her during the whole evening. But at one point she keeps taking my hand when I touch her leg.
At one point i also open her cleavage a bit during a story – so she takes my hands from there . – but i show her I have guts
I tell her that I changed a lot from how I used to be. She is curious about it.
She tells me at some point that I am interesting.
I tell her that I had to get up early that day because I drove my grandma to the hospital – because she was ill ( DHV spike – protector of the loved one ). Then she says that she didn’t sleep at all the previous night. It was already late and she told me she had to get up early the following day – so I say – Ok, Bye – and I turn and look for the door knob to exit. But she grabs my elbow and doesn’t let me .
She asks me again about my job. I tell her i don’t understand why it’s so important. So she instantly tells me : ” ok – don’t tell me. You’ll tell me next time.”
I do the trust test – I teach her what it means – she likes it. i get a lot of DHV from it because she makes a connection with what I say and it shows I read people really well ( she also finds examples from her past that match what i tell her).
We talk some more and at 0:55 she tells me at 1 she has to go. I tell her it’s the last thing I show her. I do Style’s EV ( thinking – if this doesn’t do it, she’s not ready to be kissed ). It goes ok – but I don’t get a real reaction. But during it we play and gaze a long time in each other’s eyes ( here i realized maybe I could have gone for the kiss – but it was a playful moment so I don’t know ). Then I finish EV and I try to play with her hair – she take my hand from it – cause she says it’s dirty … (fuck) … I tell her that what I really liked about the was her laugh. She asks – the C shaped smile? i say no – when I heard your laugh in the comedy club, it felt it was such a crystal clear laugh, i liked it so much … that I felt I wanted to record it, put it on my alarm phone and wake up every morning with it. She smiles – she says – that’s so romantic!
I touch her leg while telling her something and she takes it from her leg. I was receiving another sign that she is not ready for the kiss. Fuck. So I say – ok we’ll talk. And I go towards her face at an angle that allows both a kiss and a kiss on the cheek. She comes towards me like for a kiss on the cheek. So i change my angle and go for the lips. She hesitates … but then she turns too. KCLOSE! Mmmm … she has such soft and fleshy lips … She tells me I gave her a little kiss or something. So I tell her that she’s gonna get the next on next time. Then I take her face in my hands and kiss her one more time – then i say mmm … nice …not bad. She asks me: why? did you have bad experiences with kissing – i tell her yes – but I’ll tell her next time. And I go.
I was absolutely delighted!
What I can learn from this: Calibration. Obviously, it wasn’t a perfect game – but it was “good enough”.
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